You might not need a life coach.
And while therapy is good life hygiene for everyone, 50-minute weekly therapy sessions might not be The Thing that is going to help you transform your life right now.
If you have complex, intertwined life problems with seemingly no solutions in sight because one solution depends upon another solution that can't be implemented until [insert complex chain of dependencies]...
you need specialized
help.
For complex life problems, you need help from an unbiased person who won't be impacted by your decisions and who:
- is radically non-judgmental, someone who can work within your value set and beliefs
- understands systems theory—how things and people fit together within systems that inform each other can't be acted upon in isolation
- formally studied (and aced) philosophy, logic, and critical thinking
- relies on evidence and data, not anecdotes, positive thinking alone, or superstition
- listens to you without a guru complex and believes you're the expert on your life and your needs but can also introduce questions and ideas that shift everything
Life Strategy Design
uses business change management strategies and tools for your individual life's complexity, with its systems, its relationships, and its unique properties and limitations.
Complex life problems require risk mitigation, custom decision-making matrixes, and strategy—just like in business. But we aren't taught these skills in school unless we study business.
Instead, our culture feeds us fantasy stories to serve as goals. Instead of strategy, we're given ideologies and platitudes. And when we don't find happiness with them, we're sold magic potions: diets, mantras, vacations, elixirs, and a host of other products that all imply the problem we have is with our own mindset or flaws: "If only you were more enough-y!"
But everyone has flaws. And everyone has self-limiting mindsets sometimes. Not everyone has Gordian-knot life problems.
If you do, here's how I can help:
1. I will send you questions to help you identify and describe the problem you're trying to solve, and to help you identify what's getting in the way.
2. You'll send me back your answers and I'll review.
3. I may have follow-up questions.
4. We will schedule a 2-hour session to go over what you've shared with me.
MODULE #2: Deconstructing shame
Why aren't we to blame for our shame?
What is the difference between responsibility and blame?
Who benefits from your shame?
How can you identify when a person or system is trying to trigger your shame for their benefit?
How does shame initiate and support the 6 Problems of Motherhood experience?
MODULE #3: Transforming shame
This is the module you are paying for. These are the tools, the strategies, the ah-ha moments, the life redesign sessions. Many of you will understand already the content in modules 1-2 (but it's here as a refresher or for anyone who does have some holes in their understanding to fill). Module 3 is why you're here. Module 3 is where it's at.
What will we learn in Module 3?
Module 3:
Transforming Shame
This is where we learn what prior causes are and how they make all the difference in the world.
We'll deconstruct your moral values and redesign them.
We'll rewrite the narratives that feed your shame.
We'll create a strategy for neutralizing the ego that drives some of your shame. Some success will be seen immediately while other results will take repetition and time.
You'll learn mind-blowing strategies for how to set your kids up now to be happy and grateful teens and adults who felt like their needs were met—everything I figured out the hard way!
I'M NATASHA.
I'm a queer mother of four kids: one teen and three young adults. I've been many kinds of moms: fundamentalist religious mom, teen mom, divorced mom, single mom, long-distance mom, queer mom, experiencing-domestic-abuse mom, self-representing-litigant (SRL) mom, chronic illness mom.... I've had many opportunities to feel internalized shame and to be shamed by outside sources. Through the understanding gained from my mothering successes and failures and my experiences as a daughter of an abusive teen mom; and through my studies in sociology, psychology, social justice, anthropology, and philosophy; I have developed an airtight resistance to shame and judgment of other moms. On the rare occasion that they creep in, they don't stay for long.
I don't believe in shame and I don't believe in judging moms. Judging mom behaviour? Yes. Judging the mom herself? Never.
I am always on your side. Because I know the best way to care for children is to care for their mothers.
I can teach you how to always be on your own side and that of other moms.
"I use the strategies I learned in this masterclass daily. They help me show up for myself and my family in incredible ways."
Dina Porters
"I love the live practice sessions included in the masterclass! Being able to put what I learned into practice right away was powerful."
Petra Shrew
Your shame is my passion.
Demolishing it, that is. And as much as I care about you—which is a lot (and I know all I need to know to care: you're a mom)—it's not all about you. You're a piece of the larger puzzle.
I don't know if you've noticed, but the world sucks right now. I'd list how and why but then we'd both feel depressed. I'd rather skip to the solution: moms.
No one wants a better future for their kids than primary caregivers (most often moms). No one is willing to sacrifice their lives quite like moms. No one is more practiced at finding creative solutions and juggling too many considerations and responsibilities quite like moms.
No one is more motivated and capable of changing the world than moms.
But we're too tired. We're too burdened. We're too unsupported.
We're too distracted by our fear, our shame and our judgmental comparison of other women that we use as temporary drugs to dull the pain of our shame and our fear.
Our fear is that if we are not perfect moms, we'll mess up our children or they'll grow up feeling deprived.
There are people who benefit from our shame who want us directing our attention inwards and at each other, so that we don't notice what's happening in the world or we don't have the time or wherewithal to address it. The more they can set us up for failure, the more they can raise the bar culturally on what makes a good mom, increasing the chances that our kids will be disappointed in us, the more we will direct our attention there, always trying to leap over that bar. There will never be time leftover to change the world.
We need to set down the turkey carving knives and face the real turkeys.
Together, we can be not a force for change but the force.
It starts here, with you, healing yourself and offering that healing to the moms around you.
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Remember that village you thought you'd get?
I'm building it for you.
Imagine a closed online space where everyone is oriented towards helping you and accepting you where you're at. There's no blame, there's no passive aggression, there's no posturing.
There's creative problem solving, there's compassion, there's comraderie.
But in order to be a part of this community, you need to complete this course.
Why?
To help ensure that everyone in this space has the same toolset and values to produce the outcomes I just described.